At the moment my newsfeed is full of coaching tipps. How to reach your goals, how to make more money, how to improve yourself… There is a whole self-improvement industry and it seems to be doing very well.
It’s in our human nature to want to reach goals and to always think into the future. We want to have more. Of everything 😉 We often think that “when I reach this goal, I will be happy”, or “when I move there, I will be happy”. Our mind is constantly producing the next thing. If we fail at this, we become depressed, because we feel like we are not good enough.
Today was a rare day of sunshine and an almost spring-like feeling in the air. Since a long time, I was able to have a wonderful morning with the horses. A student of mine came over and I showed her a bit how I make hooves. My horses were calm, standing in the sun, enjoying the warmth. After my student was gone, I joined them for a bit and just felt the sunshine on my face. It was such a peaceful moment. Of course, after some time, my mind started producing ideas again and I was off to doing something again. The horses have to be fed, I have to prepare my next webinar, I have to do the book keeping (yikes!).
I love to improve myself. I think life always moves on, like a river, and learning something, studying something…that’s what motivates me. However, I think it’s equally important to stop sometimes and enjoy what I have. I have reached quite a lot in the last 5 years when I think back! And even if I hadn’t, would it be less worth to live?
This morning, when I did a quick check on Facebook to see if there was anything important, and I saw at least 4 self-improvement ads, I just thought: What if I’m happy with where I’m at? What if I like to procrastinate sometimes? What if I’m ok to not reach the next goal, being happy right here, right now? What if I like to go slow, don’t need any more than I have, am satisfied with the goals I already reached?
Of course, there are lots of things to learn when we are around horses. But there is one important thing we can learn from them: Being satisfied, right here, right now. When your belly is full of hay, and you snooze in the sun with your friends, what more is there to reach?
As the rain starts to tap on my window again, I’m glad I took a moment to pause and let the sunshine in. And I will try to be a bit more resistant to all the self-improvement and try to be more in the moment, and be satisfied with where I am at. Just like my horses.